Greetings Dedicated Dominants and Sincere Submissives.
As usual, I want to welcome all the new subscribers to
The Crow Academy Newsletter.
In this issue:
- Subscriber-Only First Glimpse of the newest Arcane Advice Article: Can A Fine Dom Be Made, Or Only Born As One? ….GOOD NEWS for New Doms!
- THANK YOU! for the success of “IGNITING THE FIRE” – the 1st Book from The Crow Academy
- How to Bring Crow Academy Classes to Your City
- COUPLES ONLY: Private Instruction with Master Arcane NOW AVAILABLE
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First a Very Sincere THANK YOU
11 months ago the 1st Book from The Crow Academy, “IGNITING THE FIRE: The Art Of Romantic Submission” was released in Ebook form to the general public. While we ran a small bit of advertising for a few months, we stopped all ads by March of 2015. Since that time ITF has been selling PURELY BY WORD OF MOUTH!! We could not be happier to realize that people are loving this book So Much that word is being spread and our book selling by itself! In the subsequent months we’ve received a variety of FIVE STAR REVIEWS both on Amazon as well as in the iBooks Store. So to all of you who bought the book and shared your love of it with your friends, we want to say a huge and powerful THANK YOU!!!
If you have not yet looked into the book, click on the link just below for some great information as well as links to your favorite Ebook vendors. IGNITING THE FIRE: The Art Of Romantic Submission is a Complete HOW-TO for anyone interested in immersing themselves in the Elegant World of High Etiquette Domination and Submission (the main Style of D/s that we teach here at The Crow Academy). In addition to more than 370 Pages containing a Full Course on almost every aspect of D/s you could imagine, every reader is also treated to over 200 photos by the Photographic Luminaries Ken Marcus and Perry Gallagher, who beautifully illustrate the lessons and set the perfect mood for your study of the D/s Arts, Crow Academy Style.
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++The HARD COVER, GLORIOUSLY FULL COLOR, GORGEOUS Coffee Table Edition of IGNITING THE FIRE++
++The Crow Academy Audiobook for D/s Beginners++
++A Full Set of VIDEOS to accompany major lessons from IGNITING THE FIRE++
++Hours of VIDEO SEMINARS from Master Arcane himself teaching All Manner of INTERMEDIATE and ADVANCED techniques in the D/s Arts++
++Book TWO from The Crow Academy, written especially for The Dominant (but full of great information for the Submissive as well!)++
Indeed, Great Things are in the works….
Regarding Classes and Seminars in Your Area
Everyone here at The Crow Academy is thrilled at how the demand for Crow Academy Classes and Seminars is growing rapidly. We love receiving requests for Crow Academy Classes from cities around the globe. Though naturally we cannot be everywhere at once, teaching is something we love doing, and rest assured it is our honor to teach each and every one of you every single time.
Are you ready to bring The Crow Academy to your city?
We invite you to organize your local BDSM Community and friends to write to The Crow Academy expressing interest as a group in our coming to your city. If the interest is strong enough in your area (the nearest big city) and the instructors requirements are met, then we are happy to say you will be attending a Crow Academy Class or Seminar in your area Soon!
To get the ball rolling you can reply to this newsletter or simply use the CONTACT FORM anywhere on The Crow Academy website, or by clicking the link below:
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Can A Fine Dom Be Made, Or Only Born As One?
I was participating in a group discussion recently and someone asked an age-old question about Doms and a person’s Dominant Nature. The question is always the same, effectively the Nature vs Nurture question regarding Domination. Can a Dom be “Made” or is it something intrinsic to an individual, a part of their Nature? For years I have watched this debate go back and forth. I have even revised my own perspective on the answer as my own experience has grown. Although I personally started out VERY young expressing Dominant tendencies, thus landing on the “Nature” side of the coin, I have come to see again and again that a Well-Meaning individual who has even an inkling of Dominance inside them can certainly grow into becoming a Very Fine Dom given the right guidance, as I detail in my answer below.
This is an excellent question.
From my experience, both working with absolute newbie couples as well as knowing a number of outstanding Doms and comparing and contrasting all of the above, I would say there is a spectrum of possibilities. Mind you, I used to say what many perfectly good Doms say, which was that a Dom could only be born, not made. But since the influx of interest in the last few years I have personally worked with couples where the man had a few “dominant tendencies” which, given the right circumstances and some solid guidance from an experienced Dominant Mentor, could in fact be nurtured into a workable Dominant “configuration” if you will.
It’s sort of like what I teach Submissives when I tell them that, “The BIG STUFF is Easy (slave positions, learning what a given command means, etc)…. it’s the Small Stuff that is HARD (e.g. learning to control one’s inner workings, temper, ego, improve response timing by a few seconds, etc).” The same applies to a newbie Dom. Anyone can learn the essence of Responsible Control of another person, but integrating the Gentle, Artistic side that will make the experience turn from mere instruction into Living Art is another matter. It takes a fundamental love of BEING the Dom to allow oneself (from what I have seen in my students) to flourish fully into a quality, kind-hearted Master / Owner. The biggest stumbling block that I have seen in many newbie Doms is that they are still holding onto outdated dogma (parents, teachers, religions, etc) which are telling them inside their mind that they are not allowed to be a Dom for some nonsense reason (e.g. it’s not “politically correct,” etc).
Thus I revised my stance on the former notion that a Dom can only be born and not made into a new perspective that being a Dom not only takes work and dedication NO MATTER WHAT (a well-known fact about becoming a Fine Dom), but that it also requires said New Dom to ALLOW themself to Joyfully Take the Ball and Run With It. An interesting component to this “allowing” is – quite pleasantly – the concurrent realization that to maintain the passion of being a Fine Dom, the new Dom has to Get Joy out of the experience. If one is to get joy from being a Dom, it necessarily includes seeing one’s submissive flourishing and happy in her submission. The new Dom must learn to not only act from a clever mind, but most certainly to become a Fine Dom they must also act from their heart (this is what we constantly see in successful students at The Crow Academy).
In other words, if one cannot get into a kind, creative, beneficent head space it seems MUCH harder to really let go of all that “anti-being-a-Dom” dogma. This is not hard to understand as – to be blunt – if one cannot get away from being an asshole then that same dogma will subconsciously reinforce, “you cannot tell someone else what to do because you are an asshole.” When a person is acting like a dickhead (pardon my French) they know it regardless of overt denial, and their subconscious mind knows it like a fire in the sky. So the actual act of getting past the internal negativity about being a Dom and finally releasing into the real joy of the experience (which then allows the new Dom to seriously take the Dominant ball and run with it)…. literally REQUIRES the development of a fairly strong ability to be Kind, Caring, Diligent, Forthright, Beneficent, & Creative. Add these to a man who loves his partner and the puzzle pieces will start to fall into place such that someone who might not have had the initial overt mechanics to be a good Dom could very well end up maturing into one quite nicely. I would say that all of my Dominant friends who I truly respect have these exact, positive qualities.
I will still confirm that certainly someone born with Dominant Tendencies will have an advantage, especially if they have been expressing these qualities from a very young age. However, even they will still have to work on being the best they can be when it comes to the above positive, beneficent qualities of a Fine Dom, no matter what. Concurrently, I am also happy to say that all it really takes to get started as a Dom is the tiniest sense that that there is something genuinely Dominant inside you, even if it has lain more or less dormant your entire life. You may have more inner work to do than the “Natural,” but since being a Dom is ultimately an activity that is Joy and Passion-Driven, most Doms find that the experience sweeps them away when they gaze into the loving eyes of their submissive, and any sense of “work” is replaced by a truly uplifting sense of Perfect Balance. As one opens oneself to be Responsible, Kind-Hearted and Creative as a Dom, while you remain steadfast in your diligence towards excellence in Domination, you ABSOLUTELY WILL Grow As A Person.
So fear not if you were not an obvious Dom from “day one.” If you feel that spark inside you, treat that spark and yourself kindly. Realize that being a Fine Dom is a Loving experience, and never forget that your counterpart, your wonderful submissive, has REQUESTED your Dominance. You are in a Consensual Arena, and both of you have come together like two people creating an amazing Waltz together, perfectly complementing the needs of each other. Some people are amazing ballroom dancers in their very first lesson, but most need to study the Art to get really good at it. Like ballroom dancers, we all come onto our respective dance floors and take our parter in our arms because we are truly fulfilled in doing so. Being a Fine Dom is about that Mutual Fulfillment. The time it takes you to achieve Excellence is what makes your personal journey unique. Be diligent, be forthright, love that part of yourself, be the best you can be for yourself and your partner. You are an Artist, and as we say at The Crow Academy, “There is no end to how much a person can grow and learn,” whether you have always been this way or if you literally just found your Dominant spark inside.
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“In the beginning I was afraid and yet, so excited, to finally begin delving into the world of BDSM the understanding of which only came from articles, forums, movies, novels, and websites. Little did I realize I was just scraping the surface. Never would I have thought that someone I had read about on the internet could enrich my relationship so much, but I was wrong. Arcane is incredibly intelligent, knowledgeable about the BDSM life and D/s relationships, plus he is exceedingly respectful to his clients. That is one of the things that hooked me while he was coaching my boyfriend and I – his respect for the art form which is BDSM. Through “training” with Arcane I have found that my boyfriend/Master and I’s communication has greatly widened, allowing for us to progress forward with trust and confidence in one another. Art is about communication, beauty, respect, and subjectivity. We have found art in BDSM and BDSM has found the artists in us. Truly, I would recommend anyone to Arcane whether they be newbies or professionals, he has something to offer to everyone. Thank you Arcane for your openness, patience, and respect.”
“Thank you for all of the awesome insight on where to start with my girlfriend and I’s d/s relationship. To be honest I was really struggling with finding a jumping off point but after reading your email it was much easier to find a starting place for myself, and how to accurately, thoughtfully, and intelligently be M’s Dom. We’ve chosen a name for M and that really has had a massive impact on helping me better understand my relationship to her, and also understand her wants, strengths and desires as the sub. Either way I wanted to take a moment to say thank you because your words as a true “Master” have had a profound effect on me as someone who hopes to be at your level one day. The idea of finding anchors for myself so that I can comfortably get into my Dom headspace have helped greatly, I’ve found that taking time to meditate and calm my thoughts so that I’m ready for that headspace has been extremely useful. That being said, so far so good, and I’m sure M and I will have a great deal to tell you about next time we meet. As you know we’ve been trying to get better and better at this through your teachings, and I know that we both agree that it has helped us in many ways. It has been so good to see M flourish after I give her constructive commands per your suggestion, it’s something that I see in M that keeps me striving to be a better Dom in our d/s relationship. Thank you again for the advice, we’ll keep practicing so that we can show you the advancements we’ve made, I’m sure we’ll be seeing you again soon!”
p.s. Sure, go ahead and forward this Newsletter to that “special someone” who you have been wanting to talk to about D/s and BDSM. Happy to help. 🙂
Dominant Dreams and Superb Submission to you all,
— Master Arcane and The Crow Academy